My Childhood and Schooling
My school life was unusually normal. I was a decent kid.
Never gave much trouble to my parents. Handled my studies alright. I had few but good friends.
I was mad about sports. I’d play before school, during school and after school.
If there was one thing that got my parents shaking their heads, it was my uncontrollable need to play everyday. 😛
If there was nobody to play with, I’d play alone. I’d throw the ball at the wall and as it would return, I’d imagine an imaginary player bowling to me and got ready to bat. 😛
All was good, except my school pants.
For my college I moved to New Delhi, away from home for the first time.
It felt uncertain but exciting.
Being by myself taught me many valuable lessons.
I learned the joy of being in solitude. When you spend more time with yourself you begin to figure out what really matters to you.
And yes, I usually played till late. 😛
Fun would include regular sports, participating in street play and the occasional “writing name on dew laden morning grass.”
Another truth about myself…
I almost never click good pictures. My face turns weird when I find camera staring back at me. Friends have a term for it.
Duck face. 😛
How did I become interested in self improvement?
Growing up I was headed straight for the social brainwashing. But my curiosity saved me.
I saw my parents worked extremely hard at their jobs to send me to the best school in the city. Considering their history (limited education, moderate financial background) I felt amazed at how excellently they managed all of it.
But I also noticed something else.
They couldn’t take a break. It was either take responsibility and stay stuck in work mode or become irresponsible.
This got me thinking. There had to be a way to do good work and still have a life.
When I read The Magic of Thinking Big, the book pointed towards a possible solution. It suggested that by being intentional one could improve his life.
While I did not blindly believe in the idea, it got me interested enough to read more self-improvement to find concrete answers.
The more time I invested in it, the more I became aware of the potential that resides in all of us.
What fascinates me the most?
The true nature of reality around us.
The science behind everything in our world is remarkable.
Matter in any form is 99.99999% emptiness. The remaining part is just particles vibrating at a high frequency.
Seriously, all matter is plain nothingness. This includes our bodies, sand, oceans, the sun and every imaginable object in universe.
But first, understand this.
In computers, there is an interesting concept called “abstraction”. Abstraction means to skip the irrelevant details you don’t need and remember only the useful information.
For example, there is a fan in your room. Understanding the wiring and hardware details of the fan is irrelevant to you. All you need to know is how to use the switch.
But abstraction has its disadvantage. It hides part of the truth and you see only a fraction of what actually exists. Just because the fan works from switch does not mean switch is the only thing there is. The wiring plays a crucial role as well.
Abstraction has caused us to miss the divine emptiness of our reality. We’ve become obsessed with projections of our senses.
Everything you see, touch, feel isn’t as tangible as it looks.
Plain simple brain tricks.
When you touch the wall, it appears solid. But it’s not. It’s the 0.0000001% vibrating particles, exerting enough force to repel particles in your body.
You’re not sitting in a chair. You’re sitting in mid air.
The tremendous mass of planet Earth is actually 99.99999% emptiness.
“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” Nikola Tesla
Beyond the limited forms you see, there is the infinite “formless”.
There is nothing out there. Literally nothing. Just 99.99999% empty space with illusionary bulging objects.
Do I believe in religion?
Honestly, I haven’t explored all religious texts to choose a certain faith consciously.
But I do have a general sense that all religions point to the same set of underlying ideas signifying there is “One Greater Self” from which all things rise. The different rituals and symbols teach us the same thing.
But we have become more distracted with rituals and symbols instead of the essence they point to.
The word ‘peace’ isn’t peace. It represents an internal state. If you use the word peace as a reason to punch people in the face, you miss the point.
I would take the essence of religions, merge it up with the current scientific breakthroughs, throw in a pinch of spirituality and have a new way to look at everything.
Maybe I should start a new cult.
Free cookies if you join right now. 😉
Any TV series I like?
I love everybody except Rachel. (You can hate me.)
Ross is my favourite.
My favourite episode is when the guys get the girls to bet their apartment over quiz, and win. I can do their dance. 😀
Always remember the famous saying.
Sometimes monkeys die. 😛
What kind of a social person am I?
I’m a simple, straightforward guy and prefer honest, genuine interactions to connect deeply with other people.
No-games = peace of mind.
I open up slowly to new people but when I do, I am the one cracking the silly jokes and laughing all the time.
Compassionate people resonate easily with me.
When I come across people with opposite opinions, I allow them to be and treat it as a chance to broaden my own perspective. We’re all unique and can learn a lot from each other.
And I am more of a walk-on-pleasant-evening person than a partying guy.
What books do I read?
When I was in school, we had this library period.
In order to cultivate the reading habit, it was mandatory for each student to issue a book. We were supposed to read the book and then summarize it to our teacher next week.
While a lot of students took it as a burden, I discovered the joy of reading.
I instantly fell in love with the works of Enid Blyton and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle.
My regular reads included.
- Sherlock Holmes (Adventures, Memoirs, Return of Sherlock Holmes)
- The Famous Five
- The Secret Seven
- The Hardy Boys
In my later stage of school life, I turned towards non-fiction self-help works. I loved to learn new ideas that broadened my thinking and helped me become better.
Amazing minds have done spectacular work on this planet. It is worth getting a peek into their genius brains.
My non-fiction self help favourites include –
- The Magic of Thinking Big (David J Schwartz)
- 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)
- The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)
- Rich Dad, Poor Dad
- Outliers (Malcolm Gladwell)
- The Power of Full Engagement (Tony Schwartz)
I still read the occasional fiction. The “Harry Potter series” and “the Alchemist” were pretty good.
Bottom-line is… Reading makes you smarter. Do it.
Which are my favorite movies?
While most people love entertaining movies, I prefer the ones that fire my imagination or intellect. The kind that twists your thinking into a new perspective.
INCEPTION is my favourite. (And no, I don’t know if the whole movie was a dream or not. Nolan is smart. 😀 ).
I loved INTERSTELLAR too. The attempt to make it science-proof was commendable.
Time distortion is a real thing. (Space and time are part of a single unit “space-time”. As you approach a black hole, its extreme gravity bends space, which automatically distorts your time. )
Other movies I liked include the Marvel’s Avenger series, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars etc.
What is most important to me in life?
This question is a synonym for the more common “what is the meaning of life” question.
For some people, it refers to people closest to them, their parents or spouse. But people can change and it is not wise to devote your life to a cause that may change.
Others prefer work (career) as their most important thing. Though work forms a large part of your life there is still a significant life outside work and you won’t want to neglect that.
Your most important thing should be the essence of everything in life. It should be timeless and subject to no change. Only then can it act as a solid foundation for your life and hold you firm through the ups and downs of life.
For me, the most important thing is VALUES.
Values are timeless principles that never lose their importance.
You always want to free (freedom). You always want to have more than enough (abundance). You always want to be happy (happiness). You don’t want to lose yourself in delusions (truth).
So basically, living a good life would come down to figuring out which values that resonate deeply with me and then spend my life living congruently with them.
I learned all this by meditating under this tree. 😉